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Jan 26, 2021
In Welcome to the Forum
New year's are all about resolutions and trying to be the best version of you! Well 2020 sucked, there is no disagreeing there, but 2021 can be your year. You can start to look in the mirror and see the amazing person staring back at you! But that doesn't mean that you have to lose weight nor buy a new wardrobe! Some of the best changes you can make start from the inside. No matter what you see in the mirror, you are still beautiful/handsome. You only have one body in your life time so appreciate and love the one you got! It's time to make realistic goals that can actually do. For example, -- seek out a therapist ( they literally work wonders) -- try mediation -- yoga? -- spending quality you time (for me thats reading and netflix binging -- deepen spiritually or faith Whatever you got to do to feel better, you do it. I know that when I was in a dark place, I did many things that others would frown upon. Yet, I am still here and I needed to do stupid things during that time to cope and get where I am now. You do not have to explain your actions to anyone because you are sitting here today reading this and that's the only explanation that you need. Okay so that isn't a get out a jail free card, but just take a deep breathe and forgive yourself and move forward. Whether you need to start your resolutions in January or october, it doesn't matter. You matter and that's that!
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Nov 02, 2020
In Welcome to the Forum
Fall is among us. Leaves change, but everything still feels the same for me. I try to move forward, but I stay put. But hey I am not taking steps back. I see that as a victory, though. I made it through the month with very little break down, so even a bigger win. Sometimes though I want to have a breakdown just to feel the relief that comes after one. Crying, screaming, and letting it all out is surprisingly healthy! So just let it out. It is AMAZING how better you feel after it. You what is NOT amazing. The slut shaming that is involved during the fall holiday... Halloween. If a want to dress as a sexy bunny, dog, witch, etc. I am allowed to. That by no means is an invitation. A dress is not consent. I hate how people say, oh well you were asking for it when you dress like that or when you drink like that. Nope not at all. A side effect of beer or liquor is not rape. Rape is done by the rapist not a dress or alcohol. People seriously need to stop that stigma, its annoying and hurtful. Time to reclaim the holiday and not be afraid to dress the way you want. I don't even want to know the number of people who woke up on Saturday or Sunday knowing that they were just assaulted over halloween weekend. ugh people disgust me. But I am glad to be apart of this community and heal with everyone around me. Its hard but we are in this together. So continue to be support to each other. I am here for anyone who needs to talk or needs advice.
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Sep 15, 2020
In Welcome to the Forum
I did not leave that room in bruises, scrapes, or broken bones. Yes, I had plenty of internal wounds, but none on the exterior. That made me live in denial for months that nothing happened that night, that it wasn't rape. Over and over in my head, I replayed the events and I finally had to face my deepest fear... I was raped. My story is different from yours, but we are in the steps to recovery together and our fears are near the same. Recovery is not linear and what works for me is not always gonna work for you, and thats okay. There are plenty of days where I look in the mirror and I think, "oh I got this. I am stronger than my past, I am a fighter. He no longer has power over me!" Yeah, well then like the next day, I am back to not being able to get out of bed and I breakdown over nothing. Guess what... thats normal! You are human, you are gonna have good days and bad days. But for me, my bad days are getting further apart, and I am so happy. I am able to accept that I was raped. That took me 2 years to do. My road to recovery is not over, I still have ways to go, but I am so proud of where I am today. I still have not said my rapist name out loud nor spoke of the events that took place on second floor of Marinest Hall. But, I could not have made this website if it was not for my bestest of friends (you know who you are) and my mother. The progress I have made though, is huge. Everyday that you wake up is a win, that is progress. You live to fight another day. That is why I hate being called a survivor. Yes, I survived that night, but that insinuates that my battle is over. Nope, it is an everyday internal war. I am a fighter! The image that is with this post is the symbol of me. This symbols encompasses my story and I had it made as a reminder to me that I am an overcomer and a fighter. Everyone has a past that does not define who they are. Yes, it has played a role to shape who you are, but you are in the driver's seat. You are in control now. It is time for you to ReClaim yourself, your past, your present, and your future. That is a power that only you have! So who ever is reading this, celebrate with yourself. You are fighting another day, you are reading a stupid blog post thing because you want to get getter! You got this <3 Time doesn't 'heal' all wounds, but time makes them a little more bearable. Things will get better. Please continue to seek help and find ways to cope. Till next time :)
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Sep 04, 2020
In Welcome to the Forum
Again, I want to emphasize that I am not a writer (so ignore the mistakes). I want this to be a place to be built up, not torn down. Everyone has grieved in a different way and can share tips and stories of how to do so. I will share mine and you can share if you want. We are all in this together -as quoted from HSM. So pull up a chair and make this what you want it to be. I will be ranting most of the time on my bad days, so you can be typing away at it too! Let's reclaim us together.
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